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What do women want from their man?

admin — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 20:43:10 +0000

A while ago I wrote a post called Do men really just want sex? . So now what do women want form their man?

If you look at a lot of the movies now a days they will tell you that women want love and romance. While this is true to some extent this thought is not totally accurate. Love is show as some kind of high in the sky feeling that is hard to reach. We make it to complicated. So lets bring it down to earth. Women want more then what we view as “love”.Women want closeness – she wants you to be close to her.

Women want openness – she wants you to open up to her.

Women want understanding – don’t try to “Fix” her; just listen.

Women want peacemaking – she wants you to say “I’m sorry”

Women want loyalty – she needs to know that you are committed to her. She does not want to share you with another women.

Women want esteem – she wants you to honor and cherish her.

Through these ways we know that you love, value, respect, and care about us and who we are.

Do men really just want sex?

admin — Fri, 02 May 2008 15:30:00 +0000

Is there more to a man’s desires then just sex? Do men want more out of life? What drives them and makes them tick? If we just stop and listen, and I mean really listen. Listen through there ears and look through there eyes. We could learn so much about them.

So the answer to the question is….

No most men don’t just want sex. Do they desirer it yes? So what do they really want?

Through the ages men have strived hard to build a name for themselves. This name means everything to them. It defines there role in life, but most important it is who they are.

Just take a look at some of the guy movies like Brave Heart, Saving Privet Ryan, and many more. I am not talking about the movies that portray men as stupid. Though those movies are very popular, but they are a cut down on men.

They have tried to build there name in many ways. This has been done through gaining power, building, inventing, winning over a women, and conquering something. Just to name a few.

This is only a means for the end witch is respect. Respect is what it all comes down to. Women long to be loved and men long to be respected. In our world today we talk about how much women want to be loved and we do. This is then pushed onto the men witch do need to be loved, but not in the same way as woman. Men feel love when a woman respects him.

What is a woman’s respect? It is….

Conquest: Appreciating His Desire to Work & Achieve

Hierarchy: Appreciating His Desire to Protect & Provide

Authority: Appreciating His Desire to be Strong & to Lead (to make decisions)

Insight: Appreciating His Desire to Analyze & Counsel

Relationship: Appreciating His Desire for a Shoulder to Shoulder Friendship

Sexuality: Appreciating His Desire for Sexual Intimacy

One last thought.

Without love she reacts without respect. Without respect he reacts without love.

A couple of these thought are from the book Love & Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs

Have you ever received the Blessing?

admin — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 14:00:00 +0000

Everyone longs for something, and many don’t know what that is. All they know is that they are missing something. They grow up searching for it. Longing for it so much that they will give up or do anything to get it; looking in all the wrong places. You see they are missing the blessing. The blessing is what makes us feel wanted and safe. It gives us a security in which we are in our innermost being. We look towards our future and see good things. It is so sad because most people I see today have not received the blessing. I am one of the lucky few that has, I hope you can say the same.

There are five elements of the blessing. They are meaningful touch, special spoken messages, word pictures that denote high value, instill positive future, and a commitment to bring to pass. Also to add to that everyone needs parental affirmation and family acceptance.

As you can see the blessing is given to children by their parents. Though if the parents have not received the blessing themselves, then it is likely that they will not, or haven’t passed it down to their children.

Children love to be held. They want to feel your loving arms hug them tight, or a pat on the back for a job well done. When they get older boys want to wrestle with their fathers and play around. This is all meaningful touch.

Children want to be told I love you. My little man tells me out of the clear blue I love you. He is expressing his feelings and is looking for me to do the same. They come to us looking for affirmation. They want special spoken messages.

Children want to not only know that they are valued but be told that they are valued. They don’t want to be called stupid, dumb, if only you where_______, or if only you where like_______. This just wounds their sprit. Then how will they view you as they grow up. Hold them in high value for who they are.

Children want to be told that they can be anything that they want to be. Like a pilot, nurse, astronaut, doctor, etc…. not “You won’t amount to anything.” Speak of a positive future for them!

Children want you to be involved in their lives. They may not always show it and some times we don’t need to be, or shouldn’t be. They want you to invest in them. Show them that you are committed to bring a positive future to pass.

If you are a parent and have not received your blessing then I pray that it is given to you in some way. Everyone needs the blessing.

Thank you dad for showing me what the five elements of the blessing are.

Thought on Marriage: Protecting it

admin — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 15:00:00 +0000

Another thought from the book Boundaries In Marriage by Dr. Henry & Dr. John Townsend.

“A marriage is only as strong as what it costs to protect it. In other words, you value what you invest in.”

Thought on Marriage: Marriage Investment

admin — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 05:10:31 +0000

I love analyzing people and why they do what they do. Maybe I should have become a psychologist or consular. I came across this in the book Boundaries in Marriage by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend.

“Marriage is only as good as the investment people make in it.”

I think that is worth repeating.
“Marriage is only as good as the investment people make in it.”

Loving Children Unconditionally

admin — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 11:00:00 +0000

You find out who really loves you when there isn’t much to love, like when you bring home bad grades or have a bad attitude. Children find out where they really stand when they embarrass their parents or rebel against their beliefs. Sometimes they seem to be asking, “Can you love me like this?” “Can you love me defiant?” … “Can you love me when I’ve broken your heart?” If you can find the grace to say yes, you have given the highest love there is–unconditional love … Ironically, when your children are the least lovable, they need your love the most. When you feel the least like loving them, they will be able to feel your love the most.

From: 5 Needs Your Child Must Have Met at Home by Ron Hutchcraft

To My Husband: Aaron Brazell

admin — Fri, 15 Feb 2008 16:42:56 +0000

Today I wanted you to know that you are loved.

You are a great man! I respect and admirers you for who you are and all that you do. As I have watch you change over time I love to see who you are becoming. You are a great father and little man would tell anyone that. I love to watch as you laugh and wrestle with him. The looks on yours and his faces are priceless. Little man admirer’s you and wants to be just like his daddy. He mimics things that you do.
You mean the world to him.

I love you more then words can say! You are my best friend, and my lover.

What is your Love Language?

admin — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 17:00:00 +0000

There has been much research done on Love. Did you know that we all have a love language? Now you may ask what is a love language? A love language is the way that we feel love and communicate to others that we love them. We feel love in one way and someone else may feel love in another way, so we do not all feel love in the same way. Someone may say I am showing my mate love, but yet that person doesn’t feel it because you are not speaking there language.

The 5 Love Languages are:

1. Words of Affirmation: verbal compliments, or words of encouragement

I feel especially loved when people express how grateful they are for me, and for the simple, everyday things I do.

2. Quality Time: it is focusing all your energy on the other person, giving them your full attention

I feel especially loved when a person gives me undivided attention and spends time alone with me.

3. Receiving Gifts: some people respond to visual symbols of love

I feel especially loved by someone who brings me gifts and other tangible expressions of love.

4. Acts of Service: something that you do for someone that they would appreciate the most

I feel especially loved when someone pitches in to help me, perhaps by running errands or taking on my household chores.

5. Physical Touch: receiving physical contact from their partner

I feel especially loved when a person expresses feelings for me through physical contact.

So what is your Love Language?

for more info visit http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/learn.html

Do you put value on your relationships?

admin — Thu, 14 Feb 2008 14:00:00 +0000

At the thought of this question I am sure that we would all answer yes, but do we really? We live in such a fast passed world and it is SO easy to meet people. There are all kinds of social meet ups. Not to mention the internet! The internet gives us the capability to talk at the speed of light. You can use chat rooms, twitter, facebook, pownce, there is speed dating, and lets not forget myspace. Just to name a few. I could sit hear all day and list even more. But I wont you get the point. Are we really making friends or are we just playing the game. Just getting caught up in the hype, or is there more to this.

Meeting people is one thing but creating a lasting relationship is something total different. Now I know for a fact that there are people creating real relationships by using the things that I have mentioned. I use a few myself, and I am meeting some great people. The question again is are we putting value on these relationships. In a day and age where everything comes and goes so quickly. We need to remember to stop. Look around us because there are a lot of great people out there. I am sure that at this very moment you are sitting next to or online with one right now. We want to feel like others value us and the same goes for them. Take the time to show them that they do matter and that you do care. Invest in someone outside your self.

So here we are on Valentine’s Day don’t just say I Love You. Show someone that you care. It can be anyone.

Remember actions speak louder then words.

To you all Happy Valentine’s Day!